The Balance Trap

I’ve sat on both sides of the interview table more times than I can count.

Over the years, a few management candidates have kicked things off by saying,
“Work-life balance is essential to me.”

I hear that sometimes.
And honestly, it’s usually code for:
”I want to work when it fits into my schedule.”

I get it. But most of the time, they didn’t get the job.

Because leadership doesn’t wait for your ideal schedule.
It’s not clean.
It’s not predictable.
And it rarely shows up when it’s easy.

Here’s the tension:
Your family matters. A lot.
They should never come second to your occupation.
Not for a title, not for a paycheck, not for anyone’s approval.

But leading well will cost something.
And sometimes that cost is comfort.
Sometimes it’s time.
Sometimes it’s being present when you'd rather check out.

When you’re the leader, people depend on you.
At work and home.
And showing up for both requires more than attempted balance.

Here is a hard truth: Balance is a myth. When you chase it, you're stretched in both directions, and it’s impossible to give your best to either side.

Life moves in rhythms, sometimes family needs more of you, while at other times, work does. It shifts, and that’s okay.

You gain control of your life when you stop trying to do it all and start doing the right things, one at a time.

Rhythms of focus.
Rhythms of rest.
Completely invested, wherever the moment meets you.

You won’t always get it perfect. I know I don’t.
But if you are fully present, in your work environment and around your dinner table, you’re already doing better than you think.

Balance might be a trap. But showing up intentionally, fully engaged, and ready to serve? Well, that’s the difference between just filling a seat and actually changing the room.

That’s the kind of leadership everyone remembers.

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